There are many paths to the river but the final step is always
SURRENDER. There is no painless path to soul consciousness - the
path is not through the mind. The true path is SURRENDERING TO THE
So what do I mean by SURRENDER?
It means letting go of the ego's need to protect and control.
It means being totally in the moment - not the past or future.
It means being out of your head and in your feelings and heart.
It means being seemingly out of control.
It means being open to inner guidance versus outer guidance.
It means being vulnerable and real. It means letting go of fear.
LOVE IS THE THRESHOLD TO ANOTHER UNIVERSE
- Teilhard de Chardin
Surrendering to love is much like our original birth passage -
for we are surrendering to a force far greater than ourselves or
our ego and its need to control. As such, Love represents another
passage - the passage from ego consciousness to soul consciousness.
Obviously, the experience of love is a threat to the ego for it
represents realness and heart-felt feelings - which the ego was
created to avoid at all costs.
THINK NOT THAT YOU CAN DIRECT THE COURSE
OF LOVE , FOR LOVE, IF IT FINDS YOU WORTHY, DIRECTS YOUR COURSE
Love is not about control - Love is all about surrender! In that
regard, there are three types of relationships:
- "Going through the motions"
relationships. Partners are joined by common fears and
completely dependent on each other. There is little, if any passion,
few risks are taken and no real growth occurs, It is a dry creek
bed waiting for the spring rain. COLOR IT GREY
- "Safe Love" relationships.
The ego is still in control and both partners have common dis-affinities
such as unworthiness, fear of love and intimacy. These tend to
be intense and short lived relationships as both partners vainly
try to fill the others emotional void - when, in reality, they
are avoiding their own emotional void. As such, they are externally
directed relationships. They, in essence, eventually become enclosed
in a common cocoon and their love tends to contract versus expand.
You can be relatively happy in a safe relationship but joy is
elusive because little, if any, growth occurs because you are
still in control. The dry creek bed has become a stream. COLOR
- "Soul Mates or Great Love"
relationships. Soul mates come into your life to expand
your love because the Universe wants to use you in its loving
plan. Great love relationships prepare you for the transition
from ego consciousness to soul consciousness. As such, they are
internally directed. The ultimate aim of Soul Mates ( or a great
love ) is for each partner to emerge from their cocoon of fear
and fully claim themselves. This is the love that Teilhard de
Chardin speaks of when he writes; " The only right love is
between couples whose passion leads them both, one through the
other, to a higher possession of their being ". There is
no room for the ego's need to protect and control here for this
love confronts us with our deepest feelings and fears - and demands
that we SURRENDER! There is tremendous joy in a great love because
their is no greater joy than going through your fears, growing
and discovering more of yourself. This love requires us to unconditionally
or consciously love our partner and this love can both TAKE HOLD
and LET GO - for this love is beyond emotional dependency. This
love is not for the faint of heart for, indeed, most people who
briefly experience it or taste it - will run for cover, not realizing
that they are running away from themselves. COLOR IT VIBRANT PRIMARY
COLORS - for you are now in the river.
My most recent relationship was a great love in which I surrendered
and virtually confronted any fear that kept me from loving that
deeply and, of course, felt myself and my love expand in the process.
My partner watched me surrender and swim in that river but she only
got up to her knees before she went into her head, out of her heart
and eventually out of the river. However, a wonderful example of
surrender happened after our separation. I had a precognitive dream
of her leaping into my heart and actually experienced it during
a phone conversation with her, a few weeks later, while we were
discussing her running towards me versus away from the relationship.
We both felt it deeply and it was definitely bigger than both of
us! She quickly hung up when she got another call and later disqualified
the experience. I , however, totally surrendered to it and later
opened my heart to her and in the process fully claimed myself and
my deepest connection to source. In other words , I let go of any
pride, anger or resentment and instead completely surrendered and
opened my heart.
IT WAS BIGGER THAN ME!
And by totally surrendering - I now saw through clearer eyes. I
saw that my partner had, once again, run away from this experience
as she had run away from fully surrendering to love in our relationship.
I was now free and could clearly see the real reason for our separation
- she was afraid to fully love because she was afraid of losing
The greatest remorse is love unexpressed - it is the ultimate NO
to ourselves and it takes a great toll on our inner as well as outer
health. Pride, unfortunately, is the last refuge of the ego and
it's constant companions are denial and resentment.
Only love truly heals for only love joins us to what is deepest
within ourselves. Only by surrendering to love can we emerge from
our protective and controlling cocoons of fear and claim our deepest
joy as well as our part in a universal loving plan.
ONLY BY SURRENDERING TO LOVE CAN WE TAKE
THE FINAL STEP AND SWIM IN THE RIVER OF SOUL CONSCIOUSNESS - THE
MOTHER AND SOURCE OF US ALL.
ONLY LOVE HEALS