When you consciously deny love or run away from love it will effect
every cell in your body because love is the very source of who we
Denying love is the ultimate NO to ourselves and it raises havoc
with our psychic health - or, as I am fond of saying - the
greatest remorse is love unexpressed.
In essence, when we deny love we go into a prison whose bars are
made of fear.
Let me describe what it is like in that prison since I have briefly
experienced it three times in my life and each time it occured when
I consciously denied or ran away from love.
- The world seemingly turns grey.
- Life, in general , seems to have little meaning.
- You feel lifeless and despondent.
- You see spiritual emptiness all around you because the ego is
externalizing your own spiritual emptiness.
- You feel lost and alone.
So how did I get out of that prison ?
- I stopped denying love.
- I consciously and courageously went through any fears associated
with that decision to say no to my heart.
- And in the process of going through those fears I found and
embraced more of myself - I literally felt my heart expand
as I went through those fears.
The path to the soul is through doors of
When you conquer fear by not being controlled by it - you will
realize that it is, indeed, the path to the soul.
The Ego resists this path because it wants to be in control and
was created to protect you from psychic pain. However, the path
of the heart demands that you relinquish control to the soul and
become part of something much bigger than yourself.
That is why relationship is the true test of who we are because
only in relationship are we forced to face our deepest pain and
fears and eventually embrace ourselves, Love is the great crucible
and it demands that we surrender , let go of control and be burned
into realness and authenticity.
Few have the courage to do this but like a moth to the flame -
we all , at the deepest level, want to be part of that fire and
claim our part in a Universal loving plan. It doesn't happen
It was Gibran who wrote, "think not that you can direct
the course of love for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your
course." In other words, love continually demands that
we surrender and become part of its grand design.
So, in summary , the worst prison is a closed heart and the only
way out of that prison is saying YES to your heart at the
risk of everything . Only then will you finally experience true
inner freedom and peace of mind.